The differences in perception, depth of thought, and even the level of reasoning vary greatly from person to person. People prioritize their own frame of reference. This is because each person is the master of their own world. People converse based on their own framework, their own standards, and their own perspective and thoughts. While some respect the other person’s frame, it is very common for others to believe their own frame is the only correct one and to attack. This is called a ‘frame attack.’
Such attacks are very common in the political arena. Some politicians get caught up in the opponent’s frame, while others instantly crush the opponent’s frame. When one stands at the pinnacle of such a frame, no attack is feared. Because their own beliefs and their own frame are clear, they do not fall for the opponent’s frame. These are the people who clearly know what is right, what the greater good is, and what takes precedence for the love of this world.
We can easily encounter these frame attacks in our common, everyday conversations as well. When dealing with someone whose frame is absolutely rigid, the best course of action is simply to respect their thoughts. For frames where change can be introduced and where change is genuinely desired, we can strive for the best frame together through dialogue. However, becoming such a flexible person with an open frame is not easy unless one possesses the momentum of a continuously expanding and growing frame. That’s why there are conflicts and clashes, betrayals, partings, and farewells. When frames don’t align, breaking up can actually be the best path for both individuals.
Many people break down due to malicious comments, which are one-sided attacks. However, what’s scarier than malicious comments is no comments at all… indifference. People pay attention and care enough to look and even leave malicious comments. Being on the chopping block of criticism is painful, but when we understand that this painful process expands and refines our frame, and is a step towards becoming a greater person, we can become courageous and grow flexibly.
I support the growth of your frame.
Moraum 
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